A disgruntled former member here made threatening remarks to me before she was suspended. She became upset over us posting Obama-related news. I think she didn't understand that free speech means free speech, not just what you want to hear. Sometimes you have to look at unpleasant things to try to find truth.
One of our rules here is that complaints should be made by private email. She chose to post her complaints publicly, and in out-of-the-way places, like on my profile comment wall and within blog comments. I didn't see them at first, but them stumbled upon one. I wrote her an email, to which she never responded. I tried posting to her comment wall, but she didn't respond that way either. Then I posted on a blog she had commented on, trying to get her to respond. She didn't.
As things escalated, it became apparent that she was avoiding talking to me. She knew how to use private chat, which she frequently did with me, but she didn't try to contact me that way either. We also have the "Report an Issue" tab at the top of the main page that sends a message to me and all the administrators. She didn't use that either. I finally told her to contact me or I'd have to take action.
Then I saw she had posted to my comment wall, after me asking her not to post her complaints publicly and informing her that I normally didn't use my comment wall. She claimed she wrote me an email but had trouble sending it.
Then when I noticed her posts on someone else's comment wall, and a well-known mod from the other site coming in after she posted, not once, but twice, it started to look suspicious. With everything else that was going on and her "inability" to communicate with me, I suspended her.
I took the time to write her a long email addressing her concerns and mine, but she chose to fire back a response calling my email "a rant" and turning her veiled public threats into loud and clear threats. (The email was as calm as this blog, unless you consider this blog "a rant.") Some of those threats involved her stating that she was going to contact current members here to spread her "truth" about me. I took it to mean that she has decided to spread misinformation that I am some kind of deceptive person, that it was not okay to post Obama-related articles despite our policy of free speech, that it was okay for her to break the rules in regards to lodging complaints publicly, that I should have followed her orders to post more "love and light" articles, and that her "inability" to communicate with me directly was my problem, not hers. (I got with Ning and they couldn't find any problems.)
Several times she accused me of having an EGO, using all caps indicating "big ego," I suppose. I have no idea where that is coming from, but it certainly is a writing style used by someone at that other site. She denied she was working for them, but she was also slipping in ZT via the comment wall to certain people. While there is nothing wrong with believing what you want to believe, it appeared covert and coupled with the other strange things, started painting a negative picture.
As Oliver Wendell Holmes said, Sunlight is the best disinfectant. And I agree. Since she is now threatening a very un-love-and-light disruption to some members of this site, I decided to present my side of the story and let you decide. You, as always, are free to choose what to believe. I have documentation to support my position. Since her threats appear to affect only a small number of people, I'm not going to post it. If someone needs to see it, then private email me.
So, bottom line, if you hear that I'm really the Wicked Witch of the West masquerading as a lightworker, with an EGO the size of California, and am about to go off on an NL rampage or something along those lines, please consider both sides of the story. The administrators are aware of the facts and can vouch what I say is true.
(And, no, this was not Susan. She left peacefully. It was a long-standing member. While surprising, it wasn't a surprise. NL did promise to send people here pretending to be lightworkers, to try to get close to me, to get inside so they could disrupt this site. While the former member denies this, with what I was seeing, I had to make a decision. After the hateful email she sent me after her suspension, I think I was right to suspend her. The love-and-light she espouses doesn't translate into her speech. As the saying goes, out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.)
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I am blessed with friends like all of you :)
Thank you all for your kind words. It counteracts the dark slime I sometimes have to wade through.
Thank you, DR, for your wisdom. You have a gift.
The light does not need one to showcase it . It shines through ones words and actions on it's own merits.
Thank you Keith, The words come to me they are not of me, I take no credit :)
Big Hug to you Sister Dianna, I am in good company :D
Thank you Byron :)
desertrose very nicely said
Sunlight Is The Best Disinfectant and everyone is entitled to an opinion.
The issue of controversy about Obama is not an isolated incident. That very same argument is taking place all over the Nation. To avoid and disavow the anger and displeasure of what is being perpetrated in the name of light is disheartening. Light and Dark exist and ignoring the darkness and the damage it can do is not being of the light it is simply hiding from the truth.
How can one ignore darkness when it is inflicting so much pain?
Does not the act claiming to empower the light not place you at odds with the darkness?
How can one serve to teach others about light when they refuse to face darkness and call it by it's name?
I believe the saying by Edmund Burke would be very appropriate in this case.....
"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
In order to do something one must acknowledge that it exists and that it is doing harm. Standing for the light does not excuse one from battling the darkness. Just as looking out only for oneself does nothing in the way of helping those in need. Our merit is not in the words we say but in the actions that we take. To sit back and do nothing speaks volumes not only of who one is but clearly of who one is not.
You Cheryl , have always defended everyone's right to speak their mind as long as done in a civil and fair manner. Anyone who knows you is aware of this fact. Those who take the attitude " It is my way or the Highway" ( EGO) would never be able to understand that. They are too wrapped up in themselves and their opinion to allow others that freedom.
Anyone who believes the negative things that have been said about you either does not know you or has allowed themselves to fall for the propaganda. I know that those of us who know you well would be ready in an instant to set the record straight if said propaganda is repeated to us ;)
The brighter the light becomes the stronger the retaliation of the darkness :)
Let them wallow in their delusional darkness masquerading as light. The Universe and Karma always have a way of sorting them all out :D
I agree with Keith very well said Don.
Cheryl,
I know exactly who you are, and I know you have a brilliant light in your heart. There are only a small few people I trust any more, and you are one of them. I am sorry you have to deal with this stuff but you know the territory very well. This is not going to be the last because they are going to come again and again.
If anyone calls you anything less than a noble loving being, I will defend you for what it is worth.
My sincerest respect,
Don
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